Wednesday, February 27, 2008

PUA Openers Collection: Field proof #003

Openers: pick up tips and dating advice #003
Opening using Karma PUA Opener

What is "Opener"
It's a form of pick up line, but not as cheesy and most of them are proven to be effective or field proved. It is basically a conversation starter, an excuse to talk to a person, and the beginning of the getting to know each other process.

OPENER Collection #003: Karma opener

Hey guys, I need a female opinion. Do you believe in karma?
If you don't know, Karma is a belief that whatever you do comes back to you, e.g. if you do something good, something good will happen to you, and vice versa.
OK, I'm actually with my friends here, but I can stay some time ... some things happened my girlfriends, and so I'm starting to believe that there really is something similar to karma. Listen to what happened to them.

So one of my girlfriends was throwing a party. And of course there was alcohol involved. So this my girlfriend, who was a little bit pissed, arrived in the middle of the party. So in the end of the evening they both got into a catfight, and are sworn enemies now.
And some weeks back there's another party happening. So one of my girlfriends is invited to the party and the other girlfriend brother. So you can predict what will happen and they hook up and are in love.
And now I don't understand either that is karma, is she doing that just to get back at her...

Then keep escalating, push & pull....then close.

*How to use OPENER:*

Many men often ponder what a good way of approaching women is and think they must learn magic PUA Openers that hold the key to the kind of success with women that they wish to enjoy to become successful with women. Of course, we all know that what’s going on on the inside manifests itself on the outside, so no matter how good your lines it is true to say that how you deliver it will matter more.

Some of the lines need to be delivered with feigned sincerity, curiousness, or playfulness. The delivery is what ensures that you get the right result.

Successful PUA Openers can only be effective when and if you have got the girl’s attention already. She needs to be looking at you, say “hey” or “excuse me” before you deliver the line. If you need to repeat it because she didn’t hear, or wasn’t listening, the result will never be as powerful.

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Tuesday, February 26, 2008

Be confident men who women love, how to be indifferent.

Be confident men who women love, how to be indifferent
Dating Advice & Tips: Women love confident men, how to be more confident.

Confident will get you very far with everything in life, not just women. More confident will put you into a different light, league, and ways how people perceive you.
It will comes off in move you make, word you said...it is how you do it, not what you do it with.

We all know how important INNER GAME is, but have you ever stopped to ask yourself what Inner Game actually is? Is it simply when I memorized material very well or maybe when I perfected the delivery of my voice?
Actually, Inner Game is based on confidence, beliefs, and your overall attitude about life. Whether you realize it or not, your attitude is constantly projected to the women you talk to. If you have a strong, assertive, and positive attitude, women will naturally be attracted to you. That's how most naturals get laid. They develop these three aspects of their identity: confidence, beliefs, and attitude. When this happens, they begin to feel more confident and they start to behave like they're the prize, which is exactly what attracts women.
I enjoy analyzing these ideas, and I recently found something crazy below the surface. People in general love leaders, especially women. Leaders are naturally attractive because they radiate confidence and not easily concerned with outside criticism. They know exactly what they want and focus their energies on achieving their goal. I am willing to teach you how to become a leader, how to make people follow you and even respect you. These steps are essential to leading a successful life.


I am 25 years old, but what I have lived through, you cannot even imagine. I believe I've learned a lot in these 25 years--possibly more wisdom than the average joe aquires in his entire lifetime.
The first observation is that charisma does not exist. People do not know how to describe something that is intangible, so they say this person has "charisma", or "this guy is a charismatic person". If you take the time to observe charismatic people, you see that they actually have one big quality in common. They have a frame (or point of view) so strong that people are sucked into their reality. Everything they do reflects an ultra-strong frame that exists inside their individual reality. They tend to have a lot of rules that you must follow when you are around them. They treat themselves with integrity and they absolutely will not tolerate disrespect; in fact they punish it.
You can apply these characteristics to your own life. They are actually core lessons for living succesfully on this planet. Let's take respect for example: How do you ensure that the people around you show respect for you and your work? First start to respect yourself and your work too. When you start to respect yourself completely, other people will respect you as well. If you don't respect yourself, why in the world would anyone else respect you? If you treat yourself like shit, trust me, other people will do the same because you are sending a strong signal to the world that shit is just what you are.
Next, what you must accomplish is to develop a set of unwavering rules in your life that define what people can and cannot do around you or to you. You must punish any negative behavior that impedes upon your integrity. Tell them you disaprove, and make it crystal clear that they cannot behave like that if they want to be in your company. Kick their asses for it. Make them know they did something that you do not respect. If people treat you like shit and you let them get away with it, they will do it again and again. Other people see this, and learn to disrepect you also. Make personal boundaries for yourself, and make it clear to the people around you that these boundaries must be respected. Humans are social pack animals, meaning they will accept the strongest frame presented to them.
For example, if my girlfriend flakes on me, of course I will be pissed off, but I will show her that I am angry and will calmly state that it will not happen again. For everything that she does that I do not like, I tell her she can do it only 3 times: the first time, the last time and never again! My rules are strict. People will enjoy the time they spend with me. In return I will do everything I can for their happiness. I will teach them and have fun with them, but there are some rules you must follow, otherwise you won't see me ever again.
I make options for myself, so that you are not my only choice and I can go out with someone else if I choose. For now, even if you don't have other options, make it look like you do. Behave like you do. I am going to do everything for my girls. I love them and will treat them like a queen, but only as long as I think they deserve it. It is funny to see how, when women don't get what they want, they call me a jerk. They make not like my rules, but they will respect me if I stick to them.
Take a look at the police. They have strict rules. Break them and you'll get punished, and trust me, you won't make the same mistake again in your life. I want you to do the same in your own life. Let people around you know what is allowed and what is not. Otherwise nobody is going to respect you. It is funny, but people will test you from time to time to see if you are still congruent with your frame. That is why I say that "shit tests" are not problematic. As long as you are congruent with your frame, shit tests are a non-issue. Women will challenge you all the time when you are seducing them. That's just normal behavior.
My best friend has this cute little dog. The pet knows that it is not allowed to sleep on the sofa because he got his ass kicked a few times, and still months later he comes near the sofa with his cute little look. He glances at the sofa, then his owner, the sofa, the owner, just waiting for a reaction. He might even put one leg close to the sofa, the whole time looking at his owner. What the dog is actually doing is testing his owner to see if he is still congruent with his rule about sleeping on the sofa. Is he going to allow him to jump on the sofa or is he going to yell at him? The dog is not giving his owner shit, just making sure he is still congruent. Children will test you in the same way. Every couple of days, or even hours, they will challenge you to see if the rules have weakened or changed. You can observe this behavior everywhere in nature.
Now, let's get back to charismatic people. It's funny, but the more rules charismatic people have, and the more they punish those who break their rules, the more charismatic they appear. A negative examples would be Hitler, while positive examples like Christ, Gandhi, the Dalai Lama and Martin Luther King. Being assertive does not make you good or evil. It gives you power, and you choose how to use it.
These leaders issue commands and demand unquestioning loyalty. Challenging their ideas is strongly condemned and often leads to some type of emotional or physical punishment. With women, you give them pleasure and show them a really nice time when they are with you, but you must also remember to punish any negative behavior or disrespect from her.
So the first step toward developing confidence, belief, and attitude is to start respecting yourself! If you have ever gone out with me, you will notice something really unusual: as soon as I go into a set, I am not sucked into their frame. I do not live in their world. You will see that they live in my world. How do you see this? When I approach a set or any group of people, I don't position myself so the whole group can hear me. I don't try to yell so the whole group can hear me. First, I position myself in the most comfortable position, where I feel the most relaxed. Then I reorganize the other people around me in a way I like. For example, I approach them, have them open up to me, sit down, and use the space around
me to make myself comfortable. Then, I might position the extra people to talk to each other, while the target is left to talk to me. This behavior is not something I modelled or learned, but it's been a part of my personality for a long time.
I really can't stand people who have a weak frame. For example, I hate to see guys fall into a situation like this: A guy sits in a chair, maybe one that is totally uncomfortable like the letter S, and he stays there for hours pretending he is relaxed without saying a word about it. He would rather sit there no matter what because the chair is more important than who he is. It is more important than his health or his body... sad. Why the fuck should I be in some uncomfortable position when I talk with some average frustrated woman. What the fuck is she for me?
You will always see me in the most comfortable position you can imagine, while I am in a set or anywhere in life. Why? For a few reasons: You can't be nervous when you are in a relaxed position. You must feel cool. People will see you as a socially cool guy. More importantly, your voice is going to be deeper and more relaxed, so that people will start to lean in to hear you. If you drop your voice down when they can't hear you, they will start to lean in and pay more attention to your lips in order to understand what you are saying. Looking at someone's lips for ten minutes is really sexual.

by Master (instructor from Badboy)


“If you want to break free of the matrix and rid yourself of fear, sign up for the workshop. I am fortunate enough to be able to travel frequently and experience many things but this was the most exciting experience I've ever had. If I could go back, I would have opened more sets the first couple days. I was sick afterwards from the amount of energy constantly surging through my body during those days. During the workshop you are going to feel like the fucking man sometimes, and trust me, sometimes you will hurt- but it is all worth it.”

BB lifestyle really helped me to master my inner game, what it teaches is a kinda attitude and it incrementally accelerates gradually, I mean BB lifestyle provides all the crucial elements in attitude creation you need to know. With your existing routines/or continously update your rountine pack and strategies. You will truely master the GAME. So if any one of you out there would like to be a natural, you MUST come to BB lifestyle's workshop.”

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Monday, February 18, 2008

Pick Up women: Understand the nature of woman

PUA Tips: Understand the nature of woman then you will know how to pick up the girl and eventually get intimate with her.
How to get a Girl, How to pick up girls. The Mind set that you must have and Understand the nature of courting, dating, and mating.

The Key to this:
"How long have men picked up girls using logic? 20,000 years? 50,000 years?

And how long have we picked up women using our emotional, non-logical, instincts?"

"Seize Opportunity And Get the Girl"
By BadBoy

This game is not played like chess. In the field you must react without thinking. You must go on the offensive. You must do things, then later analyze. I see guys in clubs thinking about what they are going to do for 10 minutes before approaching a girl. That’s so w rong. You must do things, and even if you fail (we all do) you analyze what you did LATER and try to learn something from the mistake. Then try to not to make the same mistake again.

That’s how you get good. That’s how I got good. I failed thousands of times, and then found something that works. So don’t be afraid to fail, it will make you better. Every set is an opportunity to either get with a new girl, or learn something that will improve your game.

Failure = Learning Opportunity

I am proud of every mistake I made in my life. And yes, I still make mistakes, which means I am still learning. Learning never stops. I am proud of that. Never get so arrogant that you refuse to learn and improve yourself.

Something I want to talk about in this newsletter is utilizing every opportunity you have in field as they come up. You are talking with a girl and a window of opportunity opens. If you don’t do something, you don’t try to escalate further, you will lose the girl. It’s simple. She gives you an opportunity to kiss her; if you chicken out in most cases you need to work another 45 minutes to open the window again... Seize the moment when it happens.

When it comes to kiss closing and escalation, I use a very simple technique. When I start to think about kissing, that means she was thinking about it as well. In the next 5-30 sec, I will go for the kiss. Following my intuition rarely fails. I highly recommend doing it this way because your brain is telling you to go for it for a reason. She’s sent you a subconscious signal. I can’t tell you how many times when I was younger I didn’t make a move to kiss, touch or sleep with a girl when the opportunity was there. I thought, “Let me wait a few minutes, then I will do it.”

And every time I waited, something unproductive would happen and I would go home alone. A boyfriend would call, she would go to the toilette and never come back or something else. The universe would PUNISH my hesitation. That’s how I learned to use every opportunity that’s in f ront of me when they happen. Life is too short. Sometimes opportunities won’t make sense, but do it anyway. Follow your intuition. It’s triggered for a reason.

Have you noticed that when you hesitate, things don’t go well?

Now, let me explain you why that is…

How long have men picked up girls using logic? 20,000 years? 50,000 years?

And how long have we picked up women using our emotional, non-logical, instincts?

When you look at human evolution, probably for more than a million years.

So, in reality the emotional/instinctual brain is way more experienced in this area than logic and analysis. Trust your instincts. They are hard wired to steer you in the right direction.

Best,

Badboy

What Students Have to Say

Here are some excerpts of what students have had to say about taking a life changing Badboy Lifestyle Workshop.

“BB lifestyle really helped me to master my inner game, what it teaches is a kinda attitude and it incrementally accelerates gradually, I mean BB lifestyle provides all the crucial elements in attitude creation you need to know. With your existing routines/or continously update your rountine pack and strategies. You will truely master the GAME. So if any one of you out there would like to be a natural, you MUST come to BB lifestyle's workshop.”

“…Have you ever stopped in front of two women riding a bike in Central Park, hold up your hand, smile and calmly said "stop" Better yet, did they immediately jump off of their bikes and wait for you to approach? When I first started, people wouldn't even give me a second glance, but by the time Badboy gave me some pointers on my body language, I could stop people at will. And then get their number.”

“I met a girl through some friends and was worried I was going to mess it up like I had with the previous five girls. With slight adjustments I applied your pickup techniques to convert this new friend into a girlfriend and had her eating out of my hands in no time. I love the way your courses are more than simple approach & close techniques, that they explain the way things are, why, and what”

“The workshop was truly a perception-expanding and fun experience. Badboy is simply a great guy. After our second night out, we came back to my hotel and he has teaching us how to walk a girl for an hour and a half……at 2 AM in the morning! He didn’t have to do that! He truly is a friend that wants to see you get good.”

“If you want to break free of the matrix and rid yourself of fear, sign up for the workshop. I am fortunate enough to be able to travel frequently and experience many things but this was the most exciting experience I've ever had. If I could go back, I would have opened more sets the first couple days. I was sick afterwards from the amount of energy constantly surging through my body during those days. During the workshop you are going to feel like the fucking man sometimes, and trust me, sometimes you will hurt- but it is all worth it.”

BB lifestyle really helped me to master my inner game, what it teaches is a kinda attitude and it incrementally accelerates gradually, I mean BB lifestyle provides all the crucial elements in attitude creation you need to know. With your existing routines/or continously update your rountine pack and strategies. You will truely master the GAME. So if any one of you out there would like to be a natural, you MUST come to BB lifestyle's workshop.”


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Sunday, February 17, 2008

PUA Openers Collection: Field proof #002

Openers: pick up tips and dating advice #002
Opening using Blond Hair

Opened EVERY time in Toronto, and even huge AFCs on ASF have emailed me saying that its opened 100% of the time. I don't know of an opener that I've seen open more than this, so far.

YOU: Guys.. get this.. I need an opinion..
THEM: What???
YOU: I'm thinking of dying my hair, TOTALLY BLONDE (Green, Blue, etc.)
THEM: no.. yes... no.. (they debate)
YOU: how about like this.. streaks.. etc etc

(this transitions easily into "I'm going on TV.. Ricki Lake show.." or many other routines.. just pre-plan it, and it can go ANYWHERE)


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Wednesday, February 13, 2008

PUA Openers Collection: Field proof #001

Openers: pick up tips and dating advice #1
Opening using Myspace

What is "Opener"
It's a form of pick up line, but not as cheesy and most of them are proven to be effective or field proved. It is basically a conversation starter, an excuse to talk to a person, and the beginning of the getting to know each other process.

Opener #001 Opening using Myspace
It has successfully opened many sets. this has been field tested on all girl sets and girl/guy sets. basically i just walk buy and look at someone in the group funny like i recognize them. i find if you do this just right you will get the exact same reaction from them! then i say 'hey i saw you on myspace' (note that this probably wouldnt work for older groups. i usually open 16-20 age group). this usually makes them ask questions so just take it from there........

u: "hey i saw you on mySpace!"
girl/ girls: "??? from where?" or "really"

u: "yeah, they had this new category called 'Very Very Bad Girls' ...and they also say avoid you, so i am trying to find out if mySpace is right!"
girl/ girls:...

Credit to Serg & TrueStory.

*How to use OPENER:*

Many men often ponder what a good way of approaching women is and think they must learn magic PUA Openers that hold the key to the kind of success with women that they wish to enjoy to become successful with women. Of course, we all know that what’s going on on the inside manifests itself on the outside, so no matter how good your lines it is true to say that how you deliver it will matter more.

Some of the lines need to be delivered with feigned sincerity, curiousness, or playfulness. The delivery is what ensures that you get the right result.

Successful PUA Openers can only be effective when and if you have got the girl’s attention already. She needs to be looking at you, say “hey” or “excuse me” before you deliver the line. If you need to repeat it because she didn’t hear, or wasn’t listening, the result will never be as powerful.


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Tuesday, February 12, 2008

PUA tips: Personality of Seduction: 3 characteristics that attract beautiful women.

PUA tips: Personality of Seduction: 3 characteristics that attract beautiful women.
3 Archetypes of Modern Seducers.

I have a foolproof technique to help you adapt that impression throughout the process - and that's what I'm going to teach you in this week's email.

Most guys only project one character when they are trying to pick up a girl. For extroverted guys it will be a fun, sociable character. For most men, labouring under the misapprehension that being "nice" is their best chance of getting laid, the character will be Mr Comfort - interesting, but not especially fun or sexual. Other guys will give off a strong sexual vibe. Each will get some success, but nowhere near the level they could expect if they were able to switch between the characters as the situation demanded. If you want to be really good with girls, you need to learn to deploy each of the characters at the right time. Start out with...


1. Mr Sociable

This is the guy you should be as you approach. He has excellent energy levels, he's animated and he makes a positive first impression. He knows how to make a group of people comfortable. He's also the kind of guy who is great value for the first few minutes but, after that, finds it hard to make a connection with a person because he is just too high energy. You need to use this character for the first few minutes of a seduction until you have entered a comfortable conversation with your target. Then it's time to switch into...


2. Mr Comfort


After Mr Social has won you a place in the group and a conversation with your target, you'll need to bring out Mr Comfort. He's interested and interesting. He listens most of the time and he doesn't talk obsessively about himself. He tries to understand women, find common interests and build rapport. You'll want to keep Mr Comfort on the scene until you have found common interests with the girl and begun to make a connection. Mr Comfort will have begun to outstay his welcome at that point; he isn't very seductive and so he is awkward when he goes in for the kiss. For that, you'll need...


3. The Seducer


The Seducer takes the good work of Mr Sociable and Mr Comfort and seals the deal. He's very sexual. When he looks at a woman she knows that he wants her; he speaks more slowly, with a deeper voice, he touches her in increasingly sexual ways, he holds her hand when he talks and holds intense eye contact. The Seducer emerges smoothly from Mr Comfort as you find out more about the woman and become more attracted. If he is there from the start it will look as if you are only interested in her because of her looks.


There we have it: the three characters of a seduction. You should keep them in mind all the time while you are in the seduction process and switch between them as it develops. Of course, all I've done here is set them out as templates. If you have any questions about the characters, drop me a line at advice@puatraining.com and I'll get back to you. And have a word with me about my new eBook. It's called Natural Game, and it will give you everything you need to know to become unstoppable when it comes to women. I've been working on it for a while and I'm been really chuffed by some of the amazing reviews it has been getting. There are a couple of special offers for the book at the moment but you'll have to move fast - they are selling really well and the price is going to be pushed up a bit in the next couple of weeks.


Until next time,

The Gambler:

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Monday, February 11, 2008

How to become a player: natural progression of zero game to hero.

How to become a player: natural progression of zero game to hero.


Here is some Valuable information from puatraining.com

The natural progression from AFC to MPUA will usually follow these steps depending on pre-existing skills and how you direct your energy.

Game improvement from practice:

  1. Nothing. Nada
  2. Can date within social circle when girl makes it VERY obvious. Physical escalation slow. Boring dates
  3. Gets the guts to approach in clubs after long time staring at girl giving him IOIs, low success rate
  4. Learns how to approach easy sets in a club and get occasional n-close, but most stale out before then and most numbers flake
  5. Can get into comfort on date. Good rapport but sometimes run out of things to say. No idea how to escalate. Miss lots of opportunities
  6. Can approach a bit more, but still with nerves that they can see. No kino, go for kisses etc awkwardly on date 3 or something
  7. Can approach cold and gain interest and establish rapport. Cannot isolate or handle a group. No game for a noisy club. Can only number close or occasional k-close on a first meeting
  8. Can do quite good day-approaches with some success
  9. Can approach and isolate with a wing. Can get rapport, and can use basic kino and k-close
  10. Can isolate and escalate kino but too slowly, can get k-close and f-close with easier targets. (At this point you can quit and already be better than 99% and have this area handled enough for it not to be a worry any more)
  11. Dance floor game - approach, escalate, extract. In 2 minutes
  12. Can f-close easier targets but useless on day 2 when energy level drops - cannot ramp it back up
  13. Master day 2 game (80%+ f-close rate)
  14. Can handle a group approach and isolate without a wing. Rarely blown-out.
  15. Learn non-verbal pick-up
  16. Learn how to lead, escalate, quickly isolate
  17. Able to open, build comfort, escalate, extract, close in any environment including daytime same day f-close
  18. Threesomes, women chasing you, 5 in a week, etc etc. You made it!
  19. Superhero PUA, you give off an energy that women find irresistible and you only have to look at them

We have had students get from zero to stage 11+ in one day and progress even further in the following weeks.

We have also seen guys spend thousands of pounds on other bootcamps and products and still be at stage 4!

Parallel Steps:

  • Fix fashion, appearance, grooming
  • PUA theory stuff, and dating psychology
  • Body language
  • Voice projection
  • Storytelling skills
  • Energy & state control
  • Confidence in social settings
  • Inner game and beliefs
  • How to read signs, like subtle IOIs
  • Interesting hobbies and skills
  • How to be high status and an AMOG


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Sunday, February 10, 2008

Approach Anxiety: the greatest obstacle of Cold Approach. How to over come it.

Approach Anxiety: the greatest obstacle of Cold Approach technique.
What it is and How to over come it.
"Alpha Male Secret"

Ever since I could remember, I've always been afraid of walking up and talking to women.

I can't explain where the heck it came from, because I have never had a woman throw her drink in my face or slap me - but this crazy fear was always there, and because of it, I felt like I missed out on so many opportunities to meet some amazing women.

My experience usually went something like this:

I would walk into a bar, or a restaurant - or anywhere there was an attractive woman I wanted to meet - and I would see HER.

You know, that one woman that just grabs your eye, and all you get obsessed - just thinking about what it would be like to talk to her, and maybe hold her in your arms on a date...

And the second I saw this woman and I figured out that I really wanted to meet her, I would experience this total "lock-up" in my brain. I was frozen to the spot, and I didn't know what to say or do.

I knew I had to go over and talk to her in order to get anything started, but I couldn't seem to find a way to DO IT. I almost felt like someone was holding me back physically, like being pinned to a wall.

Every time I tried to take a step in her direction, my mind would lock up again and I couldn't move or say anything. Even if she was standing right next to me!

(And that was usually the WORST situation because she was right there... SO CLOSE.... within reach.)

Here is another situation I think a lot of guys go through:

Have you ever been talking to a woman for a few minutes, and as the energy of the conversation starts to dip a little (right about where you are running out of things to say) she just looks back to her friends and turns her back to you?

We call this the "back turn," and it's one of those experiences guys hate more than anything. You get that sick feeling of not just being ignored, but de-valued as well.

Even though she didn't actually do it or say it out loud, you feel like she just laughed and called you a loser.

And it makes you feel like dirt.

Have you ever had this happen to you? Maybe once or twice?

Maybe more...?

And the worst part is that you don't feel like it's something you could even describe to anyone else, because you feel like it's your problem alone.

"This is Where Everything Changes Inside Your Head..."


In every one of these situations where I wanted to approach a woman, I noticed that there was this point in time - just a few seconds after I saw her - where if I didn't do something right away, I knew I would not be approaching that woman or talking to her. It just wasn't going to happen if I waited beyond any time at all past that point.

What I discovered later on - and I'll talk more about this in a second - is that if I could just get myself to take ACTION - just say something - that I wouldn't have any problems after that.

And even if I did have a challenge, it wouldn't be anywhere NEAR as difficult as this was.

You see, I'm going to tell you something that a lot of my friends don't even know ...

I'm shy.

I've always held myself back when it came to meeting people and being more outgoing. I just had this unexplainable emotion in my head that would stop me from just walking up and saying "Hi" to a woman I wanted to meet.

I knew on the surface it was SO simple to do, but it felt like it was INFINITELY complicated below the surface. I even thought at one point that I was making this stuff up in my head.

One day I sat down and wondered what it would be like to master that emotion in me - the one that kept me from meeting and interacting socially.

Take a second right now and imagine how different your life would be if you could just manage to overcome this blockade - this barrier - in your thinking that stops you from talking to the women you want.

    • Can you imagine just how much more opportunity you'd have if you could control that feeling of shyness that comes up and robs you?

    • Can you imagine how different would you act with other people? How much more confidence you would have?

Just imagine what other people in your life would think about you if you could erase that invisible barrier between you and the moment where you take ACTION...

This is what I started thinking about all the time, because I knew I could radically improve my life if I could just figure out how to seize this moment and just DO IT.

Well, I came up with some things that you will want to know about this feeling, and the art of approaching women.

Here are some other situations that I've gone through that may have happened to you:

You're sitting somewhere having an ice cold beer, and you're talking to some friends. Out of nowhere, a woman passes by that catches your eye, and you can't take your eyes off her.

More than anything, you wish you knew how to approach her, but somewhere inside your gut you get this feeling of fear pressing down on you. Your mouth goes dry...

And before you can pry your butt off your chair, that little voice in your head starts talking to you:

  • "She's out of your league..."

  • "She's probably got a boyfriend..."

  • "You're probably not her type..."

  • "You have no idea what to say to her..."

The strange thing is that these thoughts don't come up in words... they seem to come up in emotions, like an invisible force field between you and the woman you want to go meet.

And, as you stand there trying to figure out how you're going to walk up to her, another guy comes up to her and introduces himself and starts talking to her. Before you know it, they're all laughing and having fun.

You missed your shot...

"It wasn't just approaching women that would paralyze me, either..."

Have you ever had something like this happen to you:

  • You finally walk up to a woman and say hello, and the conversation gets going, but a minute or two later, you find yourself struggling to come up with something to talk about, and you want to just get her phone number and go, but now there's this uncomfortable silence ... and before you know it she says she has to "get back to her friends..."
    How do you bridge the conversation into asking for her number?



  • You get into a conversation with a woman that you think is hot, but as you're talking to her she's barely making eye contact, and she's talking to you over her shoulder. You feel more like you're interrupting her than keeping up a conversation, and eventually you just drift away without getting a number - OR a date... How do you get a woman interested quickly?


  • You've been talking with a woman for a little while, and things are going great. She's beautiful, smart, funny, and single. You want to close the deal on this, but when you ask her out for dinner, she tells you she's busy that week. She says she'll see you around sometime, and you feel disappointment hit you like a sucker-punch. What went wrong?


"Here's a story you might relate to..."

A few years back, I had a BIG problem: I was single and had just relocated to Kansas City. I was supposed to get married, but that had fallen through, and now I was alone and on my own.

I managed to get a job fairly quickly, but I had NO social network. I had to start again from scratch. I thought it would be easy, just like it was in high-school.

I was in for a rude awakening...

I got along okay for a few weeks, but then I started noticing how many nights I was staying home, drinking beer, and watching the same movies over and over. (I think I must have gone through "Big Trouble in Little China" about ten times...)

Between working at an office with only 4 people and sitting at home playing computer games, I wasn't meeting ANYONE. In fact, it felt like I had fewer and fewer friends because when I did go out, it was usually - you guessed it - alone.

I figured out real quick that loneliness doesn't go away by itself.

I knew that I had to do something different. And FAST.

So I went out to a bar in the area called "Houston's." It was a popular happy-hour spot, and there were always some really good-looking girls there. I was determined to meet these women, because I hadn't had a date in over 2 months (probably longer than that, now that I think about it), and I was starting to go stir-crazy.

I ordered a Budweiser and parked myself at the bar. I looked around to see who there was to meet. (This was a big mistake, and I'll explain why in a minute).

I kept seeing groups of girls come in, and leave, and come in... and leave. And I wasn't approaching any of them. I wanted to, but my mind wasn't giving me anything to say to them.

"The longer I stayed there, the worse it got, because I had NO IDEA where to begin."

How do you just go up and talk to a person you've never met before? I watched lots of other guys walk in, and they seemed to have no problem walking over and talking to women.

Me? I couldn't imagine how to do it, or what the hell to say...

Until later, of course. When you're in your car and on the way home, you suddenly figure out the perfect thing to open up with, even if it was only, "Hey, are you girls having fun?" It could have been that simple, but for some reason you just couldn't do it at the time.

The more times this happens to you, the more emotionally worked-up you get. And each time - when nothing changes - you feel worse and worse about yourself because it feels like you're completely stuck in this infinite loop, like Groundhog Day, only you can't seem to break the cycle...

Okay, let me finish my story about what happened at that bar...

So here I am, and finally, 2 hours and 3 beers later, I decided that I had to do something.

I decided to leave.

BUT, I wasn't going to leave without connecting with at least one woman there.

So I reached into my wallet and pulled out a business card, and I wrote on the back: "I think you're attractive... if you're interested, give me a call sometime."

"I walked over to the first cute girl I saw, and..."

I tapped her on the shoulder, and handed her the card. I said, "Here, I think you dropped this..."

Now, I thought that was pretty darn clever.

But she looked back at me - after first glancing at the front of the card and giggling - and she said, "I don't think so." And then she threw the card over her shoulder on the floor.

Wow.

That was cold.

I just walked out of there with my tail between my legs and drove home. I remember beating on the steering wheel with my fists, wondering:

"What in the world do I have to do to meet women without going through the pain of rejection like this...???"

I mean, I'd finally overcome my fear for just two seconds to walk up to her, and I still got blown out.

It really does take guts to go up to a woman and talk to her. You have to work your courage up to a fever-pitch before you can do something.

Even if you can get your courage up, there's no guarantee you're going to be successful, either.

I had no idea WHAT to say to women to get them to respond, so I felt like I was in a double-bind. Even if I could get the nerve up, I still didn't know what to say.

"I felt like I was getting in the boxing ring with an opponent that I'd never beat."

My morale had hit an all-time low.

What I ended up doing was going to the local bookstore the next day and looking for books that showed guys how to approach women and meet women.

I found NOTHING on the topic.

Then I started looking at all the dating advice books out there, most of which are written by women to help other women. I found some good ideas in there, but nothing that even came close to helping me overcome this anxiety over approaching women.

These books just talked about "flirting" and stuff like that. I didn't want to flirt - I wanted to MEET women, ATTRACT women. Get myself a hot girlfriend.

So then I went out just about every night I could, watching guys who were good with women and seeing what it was they were doing. I started figuring out how they used lines to open up groups of women and get them interested.

(These weren't those corny "pickup lines" you read about, either. I'm going to talk about those in a minute, too.)

I even joined a dating service, and put an ad in the personals, and created an online dating service profile.

I used every opportunity I could to put together a REAL and EFFECTIVE strategy to get over my fear and start talking to women.

Because there was one thing I had figured out, and it's the one thing you should be aware of right now as you read this:

"If you can't approach women, you can't meet any women."

"And if you can't meet women, you can't possibly get them to go out on a date with you..."

The two work hand in hand.

It's very simple, and logical ... and it took me a LONG TIME to learn that lesson. You see, everything you want to learn to be more successful with women requires you to learn how to approach women - and in the right way.

It goes back to that turning point I talked about before - the point in your head where you will either take action or fade into the background.

Since you're still with me here, I know that you're definitely NOT the kind who wants to disappear into the background.

Now, over those 4 years of intensive research and field work I did to find out how to approach women the right way, I kept notes in a journal. I have pages and pages of notes on what I tried, what worked, what didn't work, and how I overcame the challenges of learning this new skill.

(I still have that notebook to this day. It's all dog-eared and ragged, and I have to use a rubber band to keep the pages in there, but it's packed full of every insight and technique I found.)

But I also found something out that was much more valuable along the way. In fact, I think I'd even call it "priceless."

I noticed that even when I knew WHAT I was supposed to say when I approached a woman, I still had to get past that point in my head where I actually would DO it. Lines don't help with that.

Here's a little test you can use:

On any of your single guy friends, the next time you see an attractive woman in a bar, nudge him and tell him to go talk to her.

I will bet that 19 out of 20 guys will say something like this:

"Nah, she's not my type, dude..."

OR

"I'm not on my game tonight. Maybe later..."

Or any number of lame excuses.

Hey, I used to do the EXACT same thing. And the worst part is that when your friend talks himself out of approaching a woman, you feel relieved because it usually gives you the excuse you need to not go talk to her, either. So you don't push it, and you go back to drinking your beer.

But deep inside, you still really want to meet that woman.

Look, I'm not telling you this stuff to make you feel bad; I just want you to understand just how much of the same experiences I've gone through.

And what I discovered was ...

"There are guys EVERYWHERE with this issue - trying to find the courage to approach a woman and just say 'Hi' to her..."

I wasn't alone.

But even MORE important was that I discovered that there were guys who had figured out how to overcome the problem. They had managed to conquer their fear - and their shy personality - and break through that invisible barrier.

I once heard a phrase that I'd like you to remember: "If he did that, I can do that."

Because I used to think that there was something actually different about these guys, that they had some kind of magical gift. The reality is that they had the exact same brain I have, and they had the same abilities I had.

And I learned that I could actually do better than them when I discovered how it all worked, because these "naturals" were clueless as to what they were doing.

And that meant that it's a Skill That ANY Man Can Learn...

I want to let you know that approaching women really is a skill.

I'm sure you've learned to do something pretty good in your life, like play the guitar, or fix cars, or even play a video game better than anyone else.

Well, learning how to talk to women is just like learning one of those skills. At first, you're not too good. But if you just stick with it, you learn faster and faster, and before you know it you're better than most people.

The more you learn, the faster you get better. And it gets easier and easier.

(And the best part is that I've taken all the work and effort out of learning this skill for you.)

And then I also discovered that I became a lot better in social situations, too. I wasn't always the "quiet one" that never talked. I found out how to be a part of conversations instead of just an observer, and I got rid of a lot of the shyness I had. I even figured out how to use my sense of humor with women and not come across as a dork.

by Carlos Xuma

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Saturday, February 9, 2008

When is the right moment to kiss a girl on a date and how to do it rignt.

When is the right moment to kiss a girl on a date (d1, d2), How to do it right smoothly without any last minute rejection or take away turn.

Dynamite technique, 100% fool proof and field test! From puatraining camp

Man. I'm pumped up just thinking about this. To quote from a film about pick-up that you've probably seen, this one is money. I can't remember how many times guys have asked me for advice on how to kiss a girl for the first time. It's a scary moment: it's only a few inches between your lips and her lips but it seems like a mile. It's the time when you put your cards on the table and go for it; it's also the time when a rejection has the potential to cut to the quick. Making an approach is a nervous moment. Asking for a number is a nervous moment. But going for the kiss trumps them both.

But what would you say if I told you there was a way to move in slowly, confidently and powerfully and get the kiss? You'd probably be willing to pay top dollar for that kind of dynamite information, right? You don't have to - I'll give it to you for free. Bet you're glad you signed up for these emails now, eh?

First things first. Most guys wait hours and hours and then lunge in for the first kiss. They get rejected because the girl is totally confused and, probably, freaked out. Other guys wait for the perfect movie moment to go for the kiss. Perfect movie moments don't exist and the kiss never comes. To guarantee you get the kiss, you need to do it smoothly.

But how? Here's how:

1. In the ten minutes as you work up to the lip-lock, you should be touching the imminent recipient in increasingly more sensual ways. Here's how I do it.

  • First of all, I touch her arm for emphasis when I'm talking.
  • Then, I touch her hand - a really good way is to take it when you look at a piece of jewellery she's wearing.
  • Then I touch her hair - I ask her if it's her natural colour, if she wears it up, if she's ever cut it short or used to have it long... It doesn't really matter what you say, just run your fingers through her hair. If she lets you do that, you're IN. You're money. You can kiss her now. Stop reading. Kiss her. Do it.
  • If you're still not sure, smell her hair.
  • Then take her hand while you talk. If you have been carefully escalating your kino, she won't mind this. Don't stare at her hand, just take it. You're the man here, right? - act like it.
  • Squeeze her hand. If she squeezes back, this is another big kiss-tell. No girl squeezes back if she isn't ready to kiss.
  • Here's where you break out the sexual nerve gas: stop talking, tilt your head and look at her. Stare into her eyes. You can tell whether she's comfortable. If she is, kiss her.

You'll occasionally have bumps on the road, but you can get over them. What if she turns her face away when you try to kiss her? Kiss her cheek instead and then move onto her neck! She will usually turn around and kiss your lips. Most guys consider this to be a rejection and give up. DON'T! It isn't rejection - she's just testing you. Don't back away. If you brush it aside in a manly fashion, she'll respect you more and be turned on into the bargain. Bonus!

Touching the girl in the lead-up to a kiss is really important. But it's not all you should be doing. Establish a sexual vibe during the conversation too and you'll have a powerful weapon. You'll be unstoppable. Adding a sexual vibe makes sure the girl sees you as a potential lover rather than a friendly hairdresser. And this is how you do it:


2. Establishing a sexual vibe as you escalate the physical contact

  • More intense eye contact
  • Slower, smoother, deeper voice
  • Look at her in a sexual way, start to look at her lips as well as her eyes and see if she reciprocates. If she does she is imagining kissing you. Go for it.

3. Sometimes, even with no work on your part, she will still want you. When a girl wants to kiss you:

  • She squeezes your hand
  • She looks at your lips
  • She touches your chest instead of arm
  • She is comfortable with hard eye contact even when no one is speaking

This stuff is golden. Promise me one thing - promise me you'll go out and try it. Okay? It's all very well learning from my emails, but you need to get into the field and practice. That's the only way your skills will improve. (Email me and tell me how you get along. I get a massive buzz when students crack their hang-ups and make progress.)

If you haven't been doing that, you might not be the type of person that can learn by "distance learning." That's not something to be too bothered about - plenty of guys have the same problem. But I can tell you one thing for sure: keyboard jockeys get nowhere. You'll only make progress if you force yourself to take action.

You must either commit to (a) going out and pushing yourself or (b) coming to a bootcamp where we'll do it for you! The amount of training and practice we give you in 23 hours is worth more than a thousand hours of self-study. Seeing these skills working right in front of you is what you need to see to know that you can do it too. If you don't think that the bootcamp is the best thing you've ever done I'll give you you're money back. I am that confident. Really.

That's enough for now. Get out there and try it out. I'll be back next week with some more techniques that will improve your game.

Until next time,

Gambler, PUA training

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Friday, February 8, 2008

Tips on how to survive a Valentine being Single! What to do on a Valentine 's day?

What to do on a Valentine 's day? Tips on how to survive a Valentine being Single!

What to do from NOW til Valentine's day if you are...
I'm guessing here, but chances are, you're in one of these situations:

1) Single, no prospects on the horizon.

2) Single, with maybe a woman or two with *potential* currently in
your life...

3) Dating a woman consistently

If you are in 1 or 2, honestly...

If you are #2 POTENTIALs is good, but do something about it, be assertive and make it happen!
If things do not fall thru, roll it off your back, get them over with and don't hang up about it.
FIND new ones, there are plenty of beautiful women on earth.
There is no such things as THE ONE, it's a social condition and mental state you deal with.

Don't just pad yourself in the back and say it's OK. Every guy is HORNY, don't accept your faith. You own your own destiny! Go out, have fun and find dates.
Learn how to get dates and be in control of your life!!!
How to ask any woman out without NO REJECTION!!!


If you are #1 and you don't know what to do...LEARN to improve your love life

Suggestion on how to find hot women: For you beginner and social awkward who need a little push in social situation
-Speed Dating near you
-Take Dance classes (Tango, Salsa, etc...)
-Take wine tasting class

For intermediate:
-Coffee shop
-Bar, Lounge,
-Book Store
-Shoes Stores (Trust me)

But you still have to know how to work it: Learn how to pick up woman and be attractive as Alpha!

Advance: (Why am I telling you this? You probably have plenty of dates to pick from already.)
-Street...anywhere, any time, whoever.... YOu are Advance!

You have plenty of days still...learn the skill, keep it and you will be good with any woman for the rest of your natural life!

And GUYS!!! One more thing...the POINT is not to meet the love of your life!!! The point is to be the BEST you can be...and get what a MAN should deserve (sex). Then when you become who you really are as a MAN.


Happy Valentine,

Thursday, February 7, 2008

How to DATE & Laid as many hot beautiful girls in college as you like.

How to DATE & Laid many hot beautiful girls in college. Then you can score them as many as your social circles provided.

Also another classic valuable information from BADBOY.
He is right on the spot, I thought I must share it with you guys.

How to become the king of your college.
This is something that’s been tested and proved as pure GOLD. This works only if you are going to a new college, where the majority of people don’t already know one another. There’s no need to have some crazy PU or social skills to do this, everybody can do it, and it’s so simple. It’s a natural human process that you can use to improve your social life.
When young people come to college, most of them don’t know each other, so sooner or later they will need to make friends, or join an already established group.

Usually it takes a few weeks till those friendship circles are formed. So after a few weeks, you will see many circles with 5 to 10 members in each group.

Once they are formed, some of them will last until the very end of college days, until graduation. It’s hard to manipulate already established groups. The only thing you can do in that case is to join the group, but then you cannot establish yourself as the leader, as you are a new member. The easiest way to join an already established group is to pick one person from group, and create rapport with them. She or he will invite you to go and hang out with the rest of the group. Then slowly you can create rapport with all the other members, and that way you will become an intrinsic part of that circle of friends.

But I must say that this is not the way I like to do it. My style is more creating a group and controlling it, and that’s what I want to teach you.

The first 7-10 days are particularly crucial. In those first few days, social circles will be created. The goal is to create a social circle of 6-7 hot girls, make them friends, and establish yourself as a leader of the group. Going to clubs with them: can you just imagine the respect and admiration you could have, going to a club with 10 hot girls? Basically, with this kind of social proof, you can have any girl in the club. Or inviting your new hot friends to your home party. Then let them invite a few of their other friends also. Soon you will find yourself living your life surrounded with hot girls. That’s the lifestyle I am talking about.
So let me teach you how to do it.

During the first and second day of college, people will be extremely friendly, because they will be nervous, scared, and anxious of the new environment, the new context in their life. Some of them will look lost, like sheep that have wandered from the flock. They will feel lonely, and will have an incredible urge to meet new people and make friends in order to remove the unpleasant feeling of isolation and aloneness. You can use this knowledge to make a difference in your own life.


Don’t be shy; be friendly towards them, there is no pressure to seduce them, or anything like that. You can go straight for rapport without concerning yourself with attraction. It’s just about being friendly, cool and normal, and getting to know people that you will spend the next few years with. Don’t be weird, and don’t talk about your obsessive computer gaming habit and addiction to internet porn.

Naturally during these first few days there will be many events, introductory sessions, initial lectures, and so on. Information is normally advertised clearly in the college so you should get there early and make sure you know what’s going on. When you go to one of these events, make sure you try to sit next to some hot chick that you would like to befriend. Start a conversation, exchange some basic facts about yourselves. Where you’re from, your hobbies, your family; get them into some kind of conversation. Exchange numbers, hang-out with her after the class or lecture, go for a coffee or drink. Just be friendly, and try to make new friends. Don’t try to PU them! Not yet, anyway. You can get them in class, in hallway, inside dorms. Whatever.
Next day, or at the next class, do the same thing with a new hot girl, sit down next to her in the class, or talk for 20-30 minutes, build rapport, hang out with her afterwards, but this time invite the girl from before to join you. Or more of them if possible.

You will see as soon as you sit down with two girls that they will start to connect. They are extremely good at bonding, and creating rapport with each other. Especially hot girls. Because they have so many thing in common. So all you need to do is isolate 2 or more girls somewhere for a coffee, or a drink, and then let them connect by themselves.

Don’t hit on them, or try to seduce them during the first few weeks. The social proof you create for yourself by hanging out with these girls will get you tonnes of other girls. This is all about creating a lifestyle at university or college, a lifestyle that will bring you chicks by itself. But if you decide you want to take advantage of their loneliness in the new situation, then by all means find one and seduce her. But don’t bring her into your group.

You see, bringing a girl you’ve slept with into your social circle can be dangerous. You can easily destroy the group, or the girl you sleep with can spread pernicious rumours about you, and destroy your reputation in the group. So it’s better to keep the two activities separate.
So over the course of 5-7 days, you can collect 6-10 girls into a social circle. Gather them together at regular intervals. Once they get together, and get to know each other (which should take one or two meetings) they will become good friends.

They will exchange phone numbers, emails, and keep in contact. You will see how they will later plan to study together, to exchange books, scripts and essays for college.
After 10 days, and after you’ve created this social circle, try to get them together from time to time, like go out together partying…the more things you do with them, or they do together, the better friends they will become. So try to create some events that will bond them together even more.

Naturally the more experiences the group has together, the more things they will have to talk about tomorrow, and the more reason they will have to hang-out tomorrow. In this way it becomes self-perpetuating.

After you’ve formed your group of a few hot girls, a few weeks later you can start taking advantage of it. Start organizing home parties, and let your new hot friends, invite their girlfriends to the party. Because everyone likes you, and because you are their LEADER, chicks that come from outside the group will have considerable ATTRACTION for you.

You can also take them to clubs. Hug all of them, and go out. Have fun with them. Other chicks in the club will notice this, and trust me; they will start hitting on you. Chicks always want to have what other girls have. You can easily get to the point where you don’t need to pick up chicks at all, instead, they will be around you, and you just need to choose which one you want. Maybe this all looks a bit complicated at the moment, but it’s much easier to set up than you might imagine.
It’s hard to organize a group consisting solely of girls. Sometimes it happens, but mostly, you will have 1 or 2 guys inside. And that’s just fine. It’s ok to have a few of those guys inside your group. Usually, when we go out, those are the guys who are buying drinks for our girls…Also they protect the girls from other drunken guys inside club that may hit on them. So basically, they can be made use of.

Whenever you put a bigger group of people into one place, they will never work as a group; instead, they will separate into smaller groups of 3 to 5 people. You can see this demonstrated on the reality show ‘Big Brother’. And after the initial group forms, an alpha will come forward, the person who is going to be the head of the group. Usually this is the most dominant person, he makes all the decisions, and the rest blindly follow.
So if you organize everything, if you make decisions for the group, you think for them. They will see you as the Alpha male, and they will naturally follow you.
Later on, you can leave that social circle alone. Usually from the circle a new person comes forward that will becomes its leader, and decides everything for the group.

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Wednesday, February 6, 2008

How to improve your skills and game picking up hot women

How to improve your skills, game and avoid the mistake most PUAs made.
by Carlos Xumas

1) You need motivation.

Face it, we all want to be motivated and inspired by someone. It's
hard to stay motivated every day and all the time. Humans are lazy
by nature. The funny thing about laziness is this: We go through
all kinds of EFFORT and WORK to be lazy.

How do you think such things as the remote control and the recliner
with drink holders were invented?

Human beings put out unbelievable effort in the NOW to avoid work
in the LATER.

Each one of those people that invented those time-saving,
effort-saving things thought it was a wonderful idea, or they just
wanted to get rich. Either way, they motivated themselves with the
promise of a better future if they would just invest time in
something right now.

Think about that for a minute, then rejoin me. I'll be here.

Now as for motivation, well that's like taking a shower. Every time
you get it, you feel great, but it wears off. Tomorrow, you'll need
motivation all over again.

NOBODY is motivated 100% of the time, no matter what you may think.

NOBODY is good with women 100% of the time.

NOBODY is happy 100% of the time.

It all comes down to your own fire and drive. Moods come and go,
but action speaks volumes.

It's YOUR job to find what motivates you and leverage it to keep
you going. I don't care if it's tapes or e-books or 2 triple
espressos in the morning. You have to go to the source of your
motivation and drink from the well, my friend.

Don't think that reading an e-book once or watching a program once
will get you that motivation. You have to be willing to pick it up
and re-read it ten times (minimum) to really start to ingrain the
beliefs in your thinking.

2) You don't need another graph/chart/picture/clever analytical
method. You need ANSWERS.

There are some guys out there that are so hung up on the analytical
side of this stuff that they get into REAL trouble when it comes to
making more pictures of how to graph attraction and buying
temperature and social value and ...

Jeez Louise.

It's time to put your scientific calculators away and just own up
to the ACTION you must take. To improve your inner game will
require work - and some of it might scare you.

Ultimately, the more information you try to find out there, the
more you are really trying to avoid DOING what you know you must
DO. We're seeking the Holy Grail of attraction and pickup
techniques, but what we end up doing is not putting the EFFORT in.
By studying instead of doing, you get to feel the pleasure of
learning, and avoid the pain of practicing.

Remember: Anything worth doing will NOT be easy.

Let me say it again.

Anything worth doing in life will NOT be easy!

And it's not easy to get off your butt and go meet women. It's much
easier to sit inside and surf some nasty pictures, or post to a
forum. Or maybe even figure out if you plot the data points of a
woman's interest against her body language you'll get the square
root of ... well, nothing.

On the other hand, if you can accept the total reality that if you
learn AND apply, you will succeed. It is as inevitable as the day
following the night.

I believe in the Jeet Kune Do philosophy as applied to the Art of
Attraction. I call this (jokingly) "Jeet Kune Dating."

Here's your acronym for the week. I offer it to clarify and help.
If it doesn't do that, forget it.

R.E.A.L.

R = Relaxed & Resourceful - Cool and calm keeps you at your best,
your ability to connect to your innate abilities.
E = Effective & Energized - It has power - Alpha Power. Raise your
energy level.
A = Authentic & Alpha - It has to be YOU, and it has to be the
Masculine you.
L = Lifestyle & Lasting - Because it's NATURAL to you, you'll
never lose it - No separation from your identity.

R.E.A.L. Game. This is what I use to help guys get their inner game
solid.

Back to Bruce.

Bruce Lee sought to reconcile all the various styles and methods he
saw in the community of Martial Arts. He created the Tao of Jeet
Kune Do as an answer to this, explaining that NO-style should be
your style. It comes from a personal set of beliefs.

I try my best to perform the same function for guys today. By
providing them with tools that they can adapt to their
personalities, they can build on the foundation of their REAL
selves to achieve success more readily.

Other methods often require you to slap a whole structure on top of
a foundation (i.e., personality) that it may not fit. It makes more
sense to start with building blocks of that person's personality
type to give them their own individual approach. In the end, every
man that achieves true success with women will end up with his own
UNIQUE style anyway.

Wherever you go, there you are.

In the Tao of Jeet Kune Do, Bruce Lee's book on his philosophy of
fighting arts, he talks about the six diseases that plague us. I
think they are frighteningly relevant to the art of attraction and
pickup, and so I offer them to you here.

Consider also that following any one "system" is only a stepping
stone to greater growth. In fact, if you follow any particular
system of pickup or seduction (or whatever you choose to call it),
then you are also using a 'technique,' but in a much larger sense.
You're using one BIG technique.

Now, the six 'diseases':

1) "The desire for victory."

Ah, how this plagues so many men. The need for results and desire
for women puts us in a dangerous head space. We must let go of
attachment to results, but pursue them to a conclusion.

2) "The desire to resort to technical cunning."

Again, too strong an attachment to a technique fails to grasp the
understanding that we must all CUSTOMIZE our approach to our
R.E.A.L. selves.

3) "The desire to display all that has been learned."

Wow. I have to raise my hand at that one. I've done this a lot. You
learn a ton of clever stuff, and you gotta unload it. In the end,
you probably could have done without it all. You just act from the
confidence that HAVING it means you don't have to USE it.

4) "The desire to awe the enemy."

This would be all of us. What guy hasn't let his ego creep into his
approach or interaction with a woman and ruin things by being the
braggart or boaster? Just Relax and let her discover you. Not get
overwhelmed by you.

5) "The desire to play the passive role."

We, as men, must be the initiators. I know there's a ton of clever
stuff out there that appeals to a guy's desire to not approach or
not take action to get women attracted to him, but the REALity
persists. You must be the one to take action. Initiate. It's your
destiny and your birthright. Don't shirk it.

6) "The desire to get rid of whatever disease one is affected by."

This one is the toughest to understand, in that Zen koan sort of
way. I think what is meant by this is that to succeed, you can't be
constantly wrestling with your weaknesses. You can't let go when
you're trying to get rid of them.

You must simply dilute them with the power of your strengths. I
think that a big part of this thinking is that if I focus too much
on overcoming my weaknesses, I succumb to them.

Take that with a grain of common sense. Desire is a part of human
nature. But in the end. you will only be as successful to the
degree that you LET GO, not cling desperately to your 'style' or
your 'techniques' or your methods.

Remember, long after all the clever lines and approaches have been
exposed, your authenticity and REAL character will never be out of
style or a liability. You can't get CAUGHT if you're being YOU.

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Tuesday, February 5, 2008

8 rules to boost inner game and mental stage before you SARGE!!!

8 rules to boost inner game and mental stage before you SARGE!!!

Now, to give you a little detail, my internal process is simply this:

1) I'M INTERNALLY MOTIVATED. I use my own personalized mental
preparations. I no longer stand in front of a mirror and chant "You
are special!" the way some self-help guys would have you. It only
takes a quick minute to recollect past successes to put your mood
and beliefs in the frame of a babe magnet. Just take 60 seconds to
remember the times when you performed at your best, and you'll get
the mindset you need to be effective.

2) I CAN BE ALONE. I *emotionally* believe that being ALONE is a
worthy alternative to any relationship. Believing this will allow
you to walk away at your own discretion and not feel as if you are
the loser in any interaction, especially when a woman isn't
interested. I have a mantra that goes, "I'm better off alone than
with the wrong woman." When you don't mind being alone, there's no
pain of loss to avoid.

3) I'M RELAXED. Most guys don't truly understand the necessity of
shedding their nervous excitement around women. Sure, in some cases
it can be flattering to the woman you're talking with and it can
energize you, but it also communicates all the wrong things. I've
learned how to stay relaxed and comfortable in the most trying
situations with women. Even if I'm not doing well, I can still
smile inside with the knowledge that it's never the end of the
world. There's always another woman about to show up in my life.

4) I KNOW MYSELF. I'm totally aware of my own defense mechanisms,
and what triggers them. By knowing how I'll react in situations and
being aware of them, I can then avoid any panic or nervousness. I
took the time to build my self-discipline and self-awareness to a
level where I no longer use the excuse "I just couldn't help
myself!" (Which is a common excuse among guys who can't be bothered
with introspection and building their self-control.)

5) I AM TOTALLY RESPONSIBLE. I take the responsibility for any
success or failure, and I'm aware of which situations are not under
my control. Knowing what is in your sphere of *influence* versus
your sphere of *control* is crucial if you're going to be happy in
life and manage your stress levels effectively.

Every guy out there needs to spend a little time figuring out his
own mental mechanisms and what drives him. Do not get into the game
of over-analysis, or any number of today's New Age, see-a-therapist
solutions. However, you should become adept at figuring out why you
did what you did - WITHOUT JUDGMENT. The closer you get to this
ideal, the faster your skills will improve.

6) I PUT THINGS IN THE RIGHT PERSPECTIVE. A few misses with women
does not equate to total failure. In other words, I don't have to
win them ALL. Men have a secret desire to never make a mistake, and
this need is just another kind of insecurity. It's as though they
fall apart if just one woman didn't approve of them, or if they
were unable to get her phone number. Don't give women too much
importance.

7) I CONSTANTLY TALK AND INTERACT WITH WOMEN. Be around women as
much as you can. This is one thing that keeps your skills sharp,
even when your game isn't going the way you'd like. Just don't
become reliant on women for friendships, because then you slip back
into the "nice-guy" trap.

8) I SEEK QUALIFIED EXTERNAL FEEDBACK. If you have a friend with
GOOD judgment (and that's tough to come by) you need to latch on to
that and use it for all it's worth. They have a perspective that
you do not.

Once I've gotten my own thinking under my control, I can then start
to take my internal game EXTERNAL. This means that now that I've
gotten myself psychologically prepared, I need to take ACTION in
the real world to make things happen. We'll cover that next time...

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